What do you want to see?

What do you want to see?

Today when I spoke to my mother, she shared that she would visit Old Age Home to meet all the elderly. I was startled to know that there is an Old Age Home also in our small city. I was left speechless for a second and in the meanwhile, my mother asked me What do you want to see. Like every normal person, I say Luxury, Good Health and Stress-free life. What does a mother want to see?

Hmm, a mother! I was a bit baffled to answer. I say that she wants to see only her children to be happy and in good shape of mind and soul. I was indirectly reminded of the selfless love of all mothers. The Mother never bothers with her condition or requirements but is always ready to serve their kids. But does the same follow for the kids too?

My mother who also works as a social worker is always available to help others. She guided me through the pattern. Here it follows:

Parents work day and night enduring hardships and struggles to ensure well being of their children. They try per their capability to provide relevant education and good jobs for their kids. In the quest to maintain these, they unknowingly are fulfilling all the needs of their children and they forget to make their kids realize their worth.

Children while studying move to hostels and later move to different cities leaving behind their loving parents far behind only waiting for their kids. The period spent in waiting vanishes like nothing but the bond that keeps you together is somewhere lost. Children learn to live alone and feel their parents are like their ATM Cards. 

A reality check is done when these ATM Cards get empty or are in no position to feed any longer either physically or financially. What do you do with ATM Cards that expire? We throw the cards that are useless or not in a position to serve our motive. But Parents are living beings who ache when their loved ones throw them in these Old Age Homes to live their lives and don't even bother to ask them how they are.

Where lies the fault? Are parents wrong in spending their every penny for their children? Is Western culture much better in this Scenario? What should be changed?

Her questions made me think and I tried to figure out what a parent can do?

Never reveal your earnings to your kids

Whatever parents earn should never come into the picture of their children. Children should be told as per their needs and never the complete truth. 

Spend Quality time with your Children

Parents and kids should spend quality time together so that a bond is formed that does not fade away with time. When children observe their parents respecting their grandparents and spending time with them, a habit of togetherness is inculcated.

Never leave yourself empty-handed

Parents should never spend their hard-earned money completely on their kids. They should always keep a definite amount or minimal amount for their living in the old age. Never let your kids say you are dependent on us.

Try to relive your life with your partner

Old age is a certain period when one seeks companionship and a person who understands. Let your children have their space and enjoy your upcoming childhood.

How to provide love to people in OLD AGE HOME?

Spend some quality time with them

People who are left by their loved ones as useless or not required also need love. Try spending some time whenever possible with them. They also want to share their emotions and laugh with those who love them.

Engage them in a useful manner

Try to find the best suitable work for them that they can easily do staying there. The motive is to keep them so busy that they don't get depressed.

Conclusion:

Everyone must try to see the emotions or feelings of their loved ones. Whatever we sow, we will get back the same. SOW the seed of love and togetherness.

This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.