The People in our Lives: Everyday Psychology by Dr Gagandeep Kaur

 The People in our Lives: Everyday Psychology by Dr Gagandeep Kaur

In the bustling city, every person is seen running after daily chores they are engaged in. Even I find myself doing my routine jobs and reading books. Amidst all these, I am curious to know the psychology of human beings and how they get to know each other better.To explore my interest, I grabbed "The People in our Lives: Everyday Psychology" by Dr Gagandeep Kaur. I get startled by the content of the book that contains concise but varied explanations of the human psychology.

The book narrates the vicious cycle of birth and death. The author vividly shares her belief that we all have a soul and our body is the medium to go through the cycle of life and death. Every person is adhered to fulfil his karmic cycle irrespective of his religion, caste or creed. In each cycle of birth and death, there is a new opportunity to learn how to live our lives better in that particular epoch.

I learnt the reason to study life. I get to better understand ourselves and those around us and to live our lives in a good and productive manner as opposed to just passing our time on earth before we die.

The author shared the 8 Stages of Development Theory. These stages were:

1. Infancy

2. Early Childhood

3. Preschool

4. School Age

5. Adolescence

6. Young Adulthood

7. Middle Adulthood

8. Late Adulthood

She guides how Each stage shapes our life in terms of growth and development. Different stages in our lives have different needs. Relationships do change, and each relationship has a different perspective on viewing things and matters. What seemed extremely relevant at a young age will no longer be of much concern a few years down the line.

The author vividly explains that at each stage, individuals face and ideally master new challenges, which Erikson called psychosocial crises. Successful resolution of these crises leads to the development of a healthy personality and the acquisition of basic virtues.

A life well lived should also have an equally dignified death. Death is inevitable. It will happen to all of us. If a long, happy life has been lived, then death should be seen as a joyous event—a passage from one lifetime on this earth with a certain set of souls, filled with love, until it is time to return to our Maker.

We fear death because we do not know what comes after. No one who has died has come back to tell us about the afterlife. There are many accounts of life after death, but what if those are just figments of someone’s imagination? That said, no one has ever seen God either, yet we all believe in a higher power. We love Him and pray to Him.

Personality is not something we are born with. Instead, it is a combination of multiple factors:

Genes, Parenting style, Early relationships, Physically attributed, Education and Experiences.

The best part of the book is that I get to know the top 5 best personality tests of 2024 as:

1. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

2. Big Five

3. CliftonStrengths

4. DISC Profile

5. Enneagram

The author has shared her personal experience and guided in a vivid and evocative manner about the psychology of humans. Her vision to understand the personality of any person makes it easier for readers to learn human psychology.

Highly recommended!

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