The Girls Are Not Fine: The cost of ambition, careers and becoming by Harnidh Kaur

The Girls Are Not Fine: The cost of ambition, careers and becoming by Harnidh Kaur

"The Girls Are Not Fine" is a thought-provoking read. I recognise daily that society assumes we are fine in every aspect. But when I read the detailed approach from every corner of our life, it made me spellbound.

This detailed approach to how girls are expected to be perfect and speechless, though in pain, is commendable. What stayed with me the most was how the book talks about being "fine".Women are taught from such a young age to hide their anger, sadness, and exhaustion just to keep everyone comfortable. 

The author explains these emotions in a very direct and unfiltered way, and that made the reading experience feel personal instead of preachy.I also liked that it talks about things people usually ignore: emotional labour, family expectations, marriage pressure, workplace inequality, and how women are constantly expected to give more of themselves.

What I liked the most was the refusal toolkit. She explains vividly where to use and how to interrupt the machine that depends on our silence. Even the invisible labour toolkit makes it accessible, as it is important to make other people realise that there is labour in every work that usually goes ignored.

Overall, it is a thought-provoking read.